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The 6 Most Dangerous Mistakes Men Make With Women

We make mistakes all the time. It’s part of our learning and improvement progress. What’s important about mistakes is not to blame or hate yourself, but simply to learn and improve.

In this report, I’m going to show 6 mistakes that almost every guy makes, and that are very unattractive to women. In many cases, these mistakes are the reason why women reject you.

Being Too Available

Being “easy to get” is one of the most common problems with men. If you answer each of her calls (even when you’re busy), or agree to meet her every time she wants – you are being too available.

Being too available is unattractive, especially when the girl doesn’t deserve it, and is a signal that you don’t have too many options in your life. It’s also a signal of neediness.

What’s the right way? Well, don’t answer each of her calls – she can wait a few hours to talk to you. And what if she wants to meet you? Well, it depends – you might have other things to do, for example going out with your friends. By the way, you can even arrive 10 minutes late for a date – women do it all the time, so you can do it too.

Showing a woman that you have other activities, other options, other interests, rather than talking or meeting, is very attractive. It shows that you are an interesting man, and that she needs to work hard to get you.

Trying Too Hard to Impress Her

Impressing a girl with your skills or your knowledge – is a good thing. You should be proud and confident of yourself, and not try to hide your positive points.

 But, women can easily figure out when you are trying too hard. One of my female friends told me about a guy she dated, who picked her up with his car, driven by his “private driver”. The guy probably thought it would impress her and that he would get some easy sex for the night.

Did it impress her? Of course not, it was totally absurd. You can guess the poor guy didn’t get laid at the end of the night.

What is really impressive and attractive, is a guy who can easily and freely talk about his negative sides. Most guys can’t do it. Think of the female side – most of the guys she dates are either total losers, or they keep telling how great they are at everything.

And guess what? None of them are attractive.

That reminds me of a scene in Seinfeld, where George Constanza tried to approach a girl, by telling her about his negative sides – that he’s bold, fat, and lives with his mother. 

It isn’t easy for most guys to understand – but telling negative things about yourself, makes women immediately categorize you as an attractive guy.

This is a must for every date or even a first conversation with a girl – stop trying too hard, and always have 1-3 negative things about yourself.

It will immediately boost her interest in you.


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Being Too Logical

Men are very logical creatures. We talk about factsmethods, plansour job. We tend to talk in short informative sentences, and we hardly add any emotions or feelings into our conversations.

Now, this was probably useful when groups of men went hunting together, but in our world, especially if you want to get women, being too logical is not attractive.

First, because it’s a signal that you didn’t have much experience with women in your life, and also because women simply get bored when you talk this way.

How can you improve here? Well, talking with women – flirting actually, is a complete art, and it you will need time and experience to master it.

However, you should begin by adding emotions into your interactions.

Instead of talking about what you did or what you want, talk about how all that makes you feel. “I was totally angry last night, this guy was such a bastard…”, “When I say my sister’s new baby, I was so filled with joy…”

When you ask her a question, instead of saying “what did you do interesting today?”, try asking “what was the biggest thing that made you angry today?”

 OK? Start adding emotions and spiciness into your talks.

Letting Her Lead

We give women the power the power to take decisions and lead us. When a girl asks us: “where do you want to go tonight?” and we answer: “I don’t know. Where do you want to go?” – We show her that we have no balls to choose for her. We also show that we are not decisive.

Being able to lead and to take decisions for others is one of the strongest qualities of an attractive man. Women are generally not very good at taking action. Biologically, a woman needs the male part to lead her.

Women want a guy who will lead her and who will take the hard decisions – and she’s subconsciously checking these qualities by your little decisions.

What can you do about it? You don’t need to be some control freak. But you need to be decisive. Be the one who chooses where you go, even the one who chooses at which table you sit. Show her that you can lead and you are not afraid to take your power.

Women want a man who can make decisions.

Agreeing With Everything She Says

This one is a terrible mistake, and is a very common issue with “nice guys”. Men believe that by agreeing with everything the girl says and by showing compliance, she’s going to like them more.

 But, here is the catch. First of all, it just doesn’t sound reliable. It can’t be true that you agree with completely everything she says. A woman will easily see that you agree with her opinions only because you want her to like you.

But it’s even deeper than that. Again, an attractive guy is not afraid to disagree with women. He has his own opinions. It’s a very masculine trait to disagree, and women are looking for a real man who can stand for his own.

In fact, it’s good to show a girl that you have opposite opinions than hers. It doesn’t mean that you should make it on purpose, but yes – find points that you have different opinions, and emphasize them. It’s a great sign for a girl that you are not trying too hard to be nice and that you are not afraid to lose her.

This is attractive for women.

Being Afraid To Make Your Move

Almost every man suffers from this problem. We are afraid to move to intimate interaction – we are afraid to hold the girl’s hand, to hug her, to touch her, to kiss her.

 Why? There are various reasons – some men are afraid to “frighten” her, others worry of being rejected. Some men keep waiting for “the perfect moment”.

Because men are afraid to lose the girl, they stay in the friendly zone without making anything that is intimate or sexual.

And what’s the result? They lose the girl anyway, because she gets bored and views them as cowards.

You see, if a girl went out on a date with you, she understands and expects you to try to touch her and even try to kiss you. That’s what she wants you to do.

I don’t mean that you should move from talking directly to kissing and touching her breasts. Make it gentle, and begin with holding her hand, touching her, moving closer to her. And if she likes it and smiles – also try to kiss her. She wants you to kiss her.

 Yes, sometimes she might resist, but that’s your job as a man – you need to make things happen.

Another Opinion of Chemistry.com

This is a reposting of our Chemistry.com article. We have had several recent comments and thought it was a good idea to bring some issues to your attention.

Mandi and I appreciate comments and emails from readers. We sincerely try to provide help and guidance in the online dating arena, and when someone spends the time to write a well-written email like this that has a strong opinion of a site, we feel it’s in your best interests to print it.

We received this email from Stan, and decided to print it in its entirety to warn you of his opinion and experiences with Chemistry.com. I have to admit that I’ve been having some of the same issues since I joined; in fact, it’s been several weeks and I haven’t even had email correspondence from anyone on the site.

Thanks, Stan, for taking the time to write this:

borderline scam?

Hi, not sure if you guys tried out chemistry.com but it’s a borderline scam. Supporting that site is going to lead to disappointed readers.

The problems with chemistry.com are numerous.

dating preferences ignored

1. It ignores your preferences. It keeps matching me up with people who would have no interest in me or vice versa. For example, I describe myself as average in build, and it matched me up with someone who only wants to meet athletic people.

2. Distance. The site is insane. I live near LA. I have millions of people all around me and it keeps giving me matches that are 50 miles away. Do you know how long it takes to go 50 miles in LA? Lots and lots of hours!

garbage profiles

3. Garbage profiles. They match you up with people who sign up for free accounts! Those usually don’t bother with pictures and have a few sentences describing themselves. Worthless.

4. More Garbage. On top of that they keep matching you up with inactive accounts as well as the trial accounts. These are people who can’t contact you.

5. They’re not even showing my profile to anyone. It’s been days since my “Interest” count jumped. By “Interested” it means someone saw my profile, doesn’t even mean they’re really interested in me. How is it that they can find 10 matches a day for me to look at, but can’t find anyone to show my stuff to?

This is a complete scam. My “active list” currently has 23 people on it from whom I’m awaiting a reply. None of them have replied – you know why? Because they’re not there.

By “reply” it’s not like they have to send me an email. They simply hit an accept or reject button. Being that they’re not even rejecting me, it’s hard to not be suspicious.

no way to get your money back

This site is a scam and I’m seriously considering contacting my credit card, the better business bereau, the chamber of commerce in their home city.

At this point I just want my money back and their policies don’t even allow that.

This site is a scam. Please warn your readers.

Thanks Stan, for your input. We also have an article at Loveawake about my personal experience with Chemistry.com

My Dating Success Story

I am proof – online dating can be successful and lead to a happy relationship!

This blog has sat idle for some time, mostly because I was busy developing a wonderful relationship, getting married, and settling in.

Here’s the story – I decided to try Loveawake dating site…she said the tests were fun to take and it’s a free dating service. So I did, took some tests, and checked out some profiles.

There were some contact emails, but at that point I was so jaded I really wasn’t interested in any type of relationship. Besides, my son was here on leave and I was busy spending time with him.

One night Nick went  out partying with his  buddies, and out of sheer boredom I got on Loveawake to look around and see what new test I could take. I got an IM from a guy named John – I had already checked out his profile, but he looked too much like somebody I knew so I’d decided I wasn’t interested (see how fickle I had become?).

Normally when someone IM’s me I click out of the site, I’m that bad. But that night I responded, and pretty soon we had a nice little conversation going. Over the next few evenings we had some long phone talks, but I refused to meet him because of an eye infection I was dealing with – I wasn’t going to meet anybody with a patch over one eye!

He persisted, and when my eye got better (he says it took 2 weeks, I say 3 days) we met for coffee, with my one stipulation being that it NOT be at a Starbucks. John turned out to be a really nice guy, but when he asked if he could see me again, I was really on the fence, and he knew it. I had recently read an article by a dating advice guru about giving someone nice 5 tries, because it takes that long to really get to know a person.

So I said okay, and the next 4 dates were lovely. But that whole time, I was still on the fence. I thought he was a super guy, but to be honest, I wasn’t feeling that strong physical attraction (lust) that drives some relationships. John knew it, too, and didn’t push me at all.

Then one day, I started looking into his eyes when we were talking – really looking. What I saw blew me away. There was so much caring there. That’s when I started feeling a stirring in my heart for John.

He grew on me, that’s the only way to put it. Over time, John became an important part of my life. The stirring in my heart caused stirrings elsewhere, but it was all part of a whole.

John asked me to marry him on New Year’s Eve. I was not expecting it! I said yes, and on March 6 we got married in the Little Chapel in Las Vegas, in a sweet, touching ceremony. It was very emotional for me – I cried the entire time, and John had tears in his eyes too (he says not, but I saw them). The limo took us back to Paris and we had a romantic wedding dinner in the Eiffel Tower.

The past 4 months have been wonderful. We are amazingly compatible. There’s no drama, no rollercoaster rides, no fear or uncertainty. We work out our problems, bitch at one another occasionally, laugh a lot, and cuddle up together every night. He’s my rock.

I could not be happier.



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